Boyfriend Asks For $5K Loan From Girlfriend, Girlfriend Rejects Request, Boyfriend Gets Upset

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Jul 25, 2021 1:00 PM EDT

Money can complicate an otherwise peaceful relationship very quickly. It sounds like this couple was fairly new in their love affair, but that didn't stop the girl's boyfriend from asking her for a sizable $5K loan. Even though she's clearly well off in terms of what she has saved, it's a pretty bold request to make so early in a relationship. On top of that, the guy didn't take too kindly at all to the rejection. Could be a bit of a red flag situation going on. 

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    Font - AITA for refusing to loan my boyfriend $5000? Not the A-hole My boyfriend and I have been dating for about three months. We both love each other very much and I see a future with him. He immigrated to my home country about three years ago and is on a student visa, meaning that he has to pay exorbitant visa fees and full-fee student fees. His parents do not financially support him. I've always admired and respected his ambitions.
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    Font - He was recently talking to me about money problems, and basically asked if I could loan him $5000. I'm extremely protective over my money as I work/study 24/7 to maintain my savings. Furthermore, my dad is planning to soon retire from the workforce after a heart attack, so I like having my savings as security knowing that I could financially support him if needed. My boyfriend knows that I have about $55k saved up and he also knows that I don't pay too many living expenses besides fuel, g
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    Font - Sleepy_felines • 1d Certified Proctologist [23] NTA. You've only been together three months and he feels entitled to your money. That's a huge red flag. Don't give in to his pressure- he'll only make more and more demands. G Reply 1 3k 3 ...
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    Rectangle - BlackberryMaterial33 · 1d Partassipant [1] NTA!!!! This should be a warning. He's trying to guilt you because you don't want to give him your money. I would run for the hills because this seems very fishy to me. G Reply 1 1.2k 3
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    Rectangle - BlueRipley · 1d Partassipant [3] NTA. He is trying to scam you. Run. Run fast. G Reply 4 5.1k 3
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    Rectangle - Darth_Quietus · 1d Partassipant [1] 2 3 7 Awards NTA G Reply 1 15.2k 3
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    Font - Zaraihn • 1d Your money is your money is your money is your money! You are NTA Did he knew before you got together how much you had saved up? Anyways, asking 3 months into a relationship is way to early. 6 Reply 4 127 3 ...
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    Font - DisneyAddict2021 · 1d Partassipant [2] NTA. Don't lend him money. You won't get it back. His reaction to you not lending him the money is a huge red flag as well. He attacked you and got angry instead of accepting your decision or trying to plead his case in a calm manner. That isn't the sign of a supportive and mature partner. Rethink your dating situation. Also, for the future, three months of dating is too soon for anyone to know how much money you've saved up and your whole financial
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    Font - Lotex_Style · 1d 3 months of dating - $5000 loan. No. NTA. G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - Acrobatic-Try3549 · 1d NTA 3 months. You have been dating for about 3 months. I've had eggs in my fridge for a longer time. Run. G Reply 金5 ...
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    Rectangle - SarcasmandWool · 1d Partassipant [1] THREE MONTHS! Even at thirty years with nine kids and a boat l'd say no. This is not a relationship. He's using you. Do not give him that money. You will never get it back. Leave. G Reply ...
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    Font - NTA - do not give him money, if you give him money you will never see him or your money again this sounds like a scam. G Reply 金39 +
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    Font - Kayliee73 · 1d NTA. If you do this please know it will not be a loan; he will not pay it back. Your money is yours. If you were married then an argument could be made that you should share it but that would depend on why he needs the cash. O G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - sshah528 · 1d Partassipant [1] NTA. He's using you. Three months in and he's already asking for $5000? Getting pissed because you won't - yeah, me thinks he is using you to get your money. G Reply 4 33 3 ...
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    Font - Korlat_Eleint · 1d Colo-rectal Surgeon [33] NTA This guy is entitled to your money three months into your relationship, and is angry when you don't GIVE IT to him (you know this would not be a loan, as in he would not repay you). Is that the relationship you want to be in? A G Reply ...
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    Font - Status_Concern_1078 · 1d NTA, this guy sounds like a scam G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - Few_Cup3452· 1d NTA. You can spend your money on whatever tf you want, he has no right to guilt you. And so soon as well? 6 Reply ...
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    Rectangle - GSDawn • 1d Partassipant [4] NTA run for the hills G Reply 4 47 3 ...
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    Rectangle - RekaniAni • 1d NTA but it's a bit too early to discuss your savings at only 3 month mark. G Reply ...
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